Close the Door Softly and Open a Window!

When the door of a friendship closes it often slams shut with such a loud bang!!
Some people are okay with that, but I have a hard time having people close doors loudly in my life.
I was not really aware of that until recently when a dear friend of mine and I had a disagreement. It ended in a way that caught me off-guard...I think it shook up both of us. When he walked out of my house that sunny day and the door closed, I felt all alone in that house, in this world. Just for a moment.
The ending of the friendship as we knew it was right on time, but the manner in which it ended made me feel sad. I don't like slammed doors in my life, and on my heart.
I ran into this friend unexpectedly a couple of weeks ago. I boldly walked over to him, greeted him and we exchanged small talk. Then I sat down on a stool by him and talked about the elephant in the room. I made a joke about it, and we both laughed. He joked and we started talking. We agreed that we could be acquaintances and then the flow of conversation began again.
At the end of the evening we were both approaching the door at the same time and my girlfriend Lane was conveniently ahead of us, and with familiarity and ease he draped his arm over my shoulder as we walked to the parking lot.
We hugged, both echoing how nice it was to see each other, and headed to our vehicles.
The door that had been slammed? It was reopened and shut lightly, and a window was opened.
On the way home as I thought about the evening I realized that when doors close I want them shut quietly, and then I want a window opened. That way when I see the person who closed the door, or that I gently closed on them, we can still look through that open window and wave to each other. Or maybe even hang on the window sill and share a few words or a laugh. And when we walk away and the curtains blow softly in the wind, the heart is at peace.
Wishing you a window-opening day!




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